Strawberry Sweet Street

Well bloggers, I didn't talk the talk and fail to walk the walk.  Saturday was D-Day for Cherry and I, and you will be pleased to hear that I approached the situation head on.

It was freezing outside so Cherry picked me up at my flat and we headed out for drinks.  It was a little bizzare when he arrived as I wasn't quite ready and he was almost blue from the walk to my appartment from the train station, so the whole hug/kiss thing... Didn't really happen.  On our way to the first bar Cherry stayed with his gentleman like gestures and continued to walk on the road side, the conversation flowed easily and we both seemed at ease.  

As the night progressed and the wine/beers flowed so did the conversation.  It was interesting, flirty, relaxed and so when the night was drawing to an end and the bar was beginning to quieten with beginning to move on in search of a club; when my friend text to check in a location with me from a first date she was on, I decided it was as good of time as any.  'Curve Ball Alert'!  I told Cherry who the text was from which prompted him to ask a couple of questions, and in turn allowed me to drop the clanger... Where next?!

I told Cherry that I had been having fun on our dates but as I was also dating other people and I imagined (knew) that he would also be talking to others (he had already told me he wasn't meeting anyone else in person) that we had kind of hit a bit of a sticking point.  I explained that I felt we had a lot of sexual chemistry going on and that while I didn't want to make the situation difficult or rushed (I'm not looking to rush into anything major), I was also sure that we were at a point where we needed to make a decision as to where we wanted things to go.  I didn't state the obvious of 'I am pretty sure sometime soon we are going to be hooking up and I'm not naive enough to go in that direction without exclusivity or a mutual understanding' but when he met the curve ball from left field with a smile and a few words of intrigue, I  embraced 21st Century Girl honesty in true Ser3ndipity style... I Laid it out on a plate.

Cherry was left with a decision to make, and the exceptionally cheeky smile that appeared on his face told me that he understood there was no wrong answer but like a kid in a sweet shop, he could only choose one:

• We embrace the sexual tension, roll with it, have some fun.  Have a little more fun if we feel the need for a few repeat performances but we tie the whole thing up in a FB bow. No commitment, no leaning on each other.  Just fun, a few drinks from time to time and the understanding that should either of us enter sexual territory with anyone else, we call time immediately.
• We decide that we have stumbled upon something pursuing and we put dating/emailing other people to one side, embrace exclusivity and see where it goes... If it goes well we think about the bf/gf thing.  All under the proviso that if that is the direction chosen sex is like a strawberry... the longer you wait the sweeter it tastes

Cherry's face was a picture and I was pretty confident when I had spelled it all out that he was going to embrace the path of the FB as I saw his eyes light up a little at it's suggestion, but he pretty much threw a curve ball of his own.  So hot off the press...

I am, as of Saturday exclusively dating Cherry and he called me on the 'if it all goes well' thing and so we are skipping a step.  Cherry is now officially my boyfriend.

Skunk Anansie - Headonism
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Weighing Up & Walking Away

Sometimes in life there comes a point where riding out a situation to see 'what if' might be the easy option, but isn't the option you should take.

Cherry has been in touch daily since our last date and things have fallen both sides of the dating tightrope as regular chat has been spattered with a few heated conversations and couple of really 'get to know you' moments.  The thing is bloggers, it has been almost two weeks since we have met in person as last week he was learning to drive and there was no suggestion of meeting at the weekend.  Last night he asked me how my plans were looking for the weekend and shortly after asked if I would like to meet for drinks on Saturday night. The thing is, I'm pretty certain that we are now at the point where we either jump in with both feet give it a go or chalk it up to one of those encounters that just doesn't quite click into place.

Among our conversations this last couple of weeks we had some honest dialogue about the fact I have been dating a few people and Cherry tends to only date one person at a time.  He didn't however intimate at the time that he was looking for this to change and I know from being online myself that he has equally been logging in whether he is dating other people or not.  Don't get me wrong bloggers, I absolutely think that dating should be something that sees people weigh up all the options and so while I opt to do this in person and Cherry appears to be conversing via email, it can't be one rule for me and another for him.  

I do feel however that we are at a bit of a stop zone in terms of where I am happy to go from here.  Sexual chemistry wise, we clearly both click but as I'm the kind of girl who is either embracing the FB experience or playing it slow and taking my time in a relationship, we are definitely at the point where things need to be defined.  In an ideal world I think I would like to give things a go and see where that takes us.  I'm not sure Cherry is the guy for me in the long term, but I think there is enough there both sexually and personality wise to warrant taking things to the next stage. 

The dilemma here bloggers is if Cherry is in the same place... He is definitely more of a 'see how it goes' guy, and while I'm ok with that to a certain extent I'm not willing to put myself into a position where I'm getting intimate with a guy physically and/or emotionally when I'm not sure of the context.

So Saturday night is snap decision night.  I will see how I feel when I see him, how he greets me, how the night goes and as we say goodbye, if there is still no context about where we are going, I think I will call time.   I'm a firm believer that if a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen, so no intimation of the direction is just as powerful a gesture for me.

I will let you know how it goes.

Creed - My Sacrifice
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Staring At The Stars

I had initially logged in today to give you an update on where things are with me, however I was met with a new comment on the final posting of the blog prior to this one that kinda made me stop and take note.

It seems by bumbling through life and spilling the beans about how I'm feeling and where I'm going to try and go next I seem to have helped a few people along the way.  I've had a few comments over the years on a few of the postings and a couple of you have even sent me the odd email but I guess it is  always just really nice to hear that you might have helped someone along the way. 

Life can be one seriously daunting experience at times, like a never ending hill or walking a tightrope above a vat of syrup but when things fall into place... there's no better feeling.  You've got to take the lows so you really appreciate the high's right?

Things going on with me at the moment:  Mr X back in touch as he is having a difficult time with work and needs an ear.  OOJ disappearing again despite recent conversations.  Pooch pushing me to meet him for cocktails next weekend at his flat which were meant to be as friends before his recent revelations.  Work boring me and stealing a little piece of my soul everyday that I'm not in something new and doing something that I love.  Cherry firmly on the radar but making no motion to commit or even organise another date so perhaps about to fall into the 'season' category of my dad's 'Reason a Season or a Lifetime' theory.  My bank balance at breaking point and a car that still won't start.  Hair that is currently goth black due to the terrible colour advice of a friend who shall never again be called upon in that capacity.  A chest infection that is seriously stinting my tough mudder training.  Accountant, Solicitor and Older guy back on the scene and asking for dates.  Mum on good form for the first time in a long time.  Music making an epic return into my life as the antidote to difficult times.

In the words of Oscar Wilde "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars"

Ross Copperman - Holding On, Letting Go

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The Good, The Bad, The Insane

The last few days can most definitely be split into the below three categories.  I'm not going to give much of an intro to this one and I might even spare you a few details, but I think you should just give me this one...  Lets flip it and start from worst to best.

The Insane

• Being convinced by Cilla that texting Cherry to have the 'exclusive dating' convo was a good idea because things had heated up and I had a few dates lined up that she thought I should cancel.
• Actually listening to Cilla and taking this idea on board... Thank goodness  in person I come across as pretty balanced as I am NEVER having that conversation via text again - what was I thinking?!!?
• Pooch texting to ask me to go for drinks at his new place (post the Pooch-Waves split-up)  This might have made it into the 'good' category if it hadn't been met shortly after my acceptence with Pooch confessing his not-so hidden attraction to me and making several comments on my ass and how hot my eyes are.  Eewweee
• OOJ throwing 101 things into the mix  including telling me he thinks he still might have love-type feelings for me and then falling off the planet for all intents and purposes again.  What is with that guy?!?

The Bad

• Discovering that Cherry isn't multi-dating as he can 'only handle one girl at a time' and in doing so realising that I look like a total 'good-time-girl' eek.
• Cherry failing to tell me that he would like me to going on dates with just him.  This was a 'I'm not seeing other people but if there is someone that you meet and want to go on a date with I wouldn't want to stop you' accompanied with an 'I'm not sure how I feel yet'.  Double eek.
• The fact I seem to have turned into the more keen party here... Seriously!?! Unimpressed.
• My hair straighteners breaking leaving me with borderline Toblerone hair.
• Updating my iPhone to iOS 6.2.1 and it turning both my phone and then shortly after a sync my iTunes account into nothing more than a brick and a blank screen.
• My car... Totally broken and I am all out of ideas as to why *sniff
• Major chest infection meaning I've done absolutely zero training for tough mudder this last week and can't see any training going ahead for at least another 3/4days.

The Good

• Cherry somehow despite the very confusing text exchange that left me feeling more confused at the end than the start upping the ante on calling me 'cute, a sweetheart, pretty, gorgeous, smart, intelligent' and adding kisses to the end of more messages than previous.
• Discovering the line-up to the Leeds/Reading Festival this year and realising that I absolutely am going to ditch Download and step over to the 'commercial' side this year (This could later become 'bad' if I don't find someone to come with me.
• Finding the perfect bridesmaid dress online and having Clio agree that we would both look awesome in it should Herb like one of the available colours.
• Tune swapping with Cherry - the boy has some seriously eclectic taste in music and a liking for the acoustic.  Always good to get a few additional tunes on the play list.

Pearl Jam - Just Breathe

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Operation Kate Hudson

It seems Cherry is allergic to my cats.  I'm not sure why this is something that hadn't kicked in on the Friday, but within 10mins of arriving on Sunday he was sneezing, had a runny nose and shortly after, super red eyes.  A couple of antihistamine tablets later he said he was feeling ok, but his eyes were still itchy yesterday so I'm guessing we may have hit a bit of a speed bump.  My apartment isn't particularly cat-like and people with allergies have visited before and have barely had the sniffles so his reaction was rather extreme for someone who hadn't thought they were allergic to animals.  I can't think what else it could have been though. 

The date on Sunday night was all about the low key and saw the beginning of a phase I like to refer to as 'Operation Kate Hudson'.  With inspiration and a couple of ideas gleaned from the movie 'How to lose a guy in 10 days', experience and wicked sense of humour has seen me take this approach on a number of occasions when I am thinking I might want to make the step from dating into exclusivity.  Let me fill you in...

As much as I would like to live in the land of the fairytale, the reality is that people are complicated and life is adept at throwing a curve ball.  You can meet someone you think is the guy of your dreams and then 6 months later when you have invested time & energy something comes along and we girls seem to be surprised that we hadn't noticed before that we were 'a glorified booty call', 'a support mechanism', 'always going to come second to his friends', 'will be hated by his parents', 'have fallen for someone who can't handle you on a day when the crazy kicks in' and so why not cut to the chase and get a real feel for the potential future man in your life by throwing a few curve balls of your own into the mix before you commit.  

In the movie Kate Hudson's character puts a guy to the test in a myriad of ways, most unrealistic in the real world (If you are curious click here) and despite her efforts Matthew McConaughey's character falls madly in love with her.  I'm not saying this is the ultimate goal, but it's got to be a bonus to work out a few of the big things early on right? I say embrace the premise and test the waters of compatibility early on.  There isn't really a play by play method to this as everyone is different, but for the purposes of the blog let me try and give you a little more insight...

1.  The Girl Next Door 

When you first start dating someone it is easy to fall into a trap that sees you months down the line wearing make-up to bed (despite the fact it ruins your skin) and sneaking to the bathroom first thing in the morning to re-apply the 'natural look'.  Don't do it! 

Yes, first impressions are important and there might be an occasion where mount Vesuvius is about to erupt on your chin and you want to lessen the blow but come on!  Do you really want to set an unrealistic expectation?  My advice... Take the plunge from Glamourpuss to Girl next door as quickly as possible as soon as you sense there might be potential.  Organise a night in or something outdoors that sees you ditch the eyeliner, lipgloss, foundation, false nails/eyelashes and perfectly tousled hair for a smidgen of tinted moisturiser, a relaxed up-do and a touch of vaseline (I'm not completely insane... kissable lips are always a must).  

And remember!  This is about the entire look so off with the heels and the high 'fashion' clothing and in with the converse, comfy jeans and that crazy old jumper you refuse to throw out despite the fact it's all bent out of shape.

If he is truly into you...  He will notice, but he won't care.  If you believe the surveys in the back of those trashy magazines he might ever prefer you like this (I'm not sure I am completely sold on that one however).

2.  Let the crazy out

You know those little neurotic-ism's that make you you?  Well why not throw a few of them out there.  Best find out now if he is going to stick around when you are juggling 101 things and the crazy comes out to play.  Pretend all you like girls... level headed goes out the window when our hormones kick in.  I don't buy into this 'time of the month' crazy b*atch thing, but there are times when I've practically observed myself losing the plot and have been unable to pull myself back.

I tend to bring quite a lot to to the table in this category and while I don't think I'm the most neurotic person in the world, better out than in!  Check list for outing the fact I have what is verging on OCD when it comes to my dental care regime (cue disclosure of the handbag toothbrush and imported toothpaste requirements).  Getting my sing on in the car or shower when my potential is in the vicinity is also a must.  Lets also not forget to introduce my extreme phobia of spiders and refusal to stay in the same room as anyone while they consume a runny or fried egg.  

3.  Scheduling

I'm all for keeping your independence when in a relationship.  It keeps things fresh, interesting and seems to steer things away from monotony.  However, there will come a time when something crops up last minute or you receive an invite to an event you really don't want to go to alone if your diaries will clash, and I for one would like to think that on such an occasion the guy in your life will step up but why play the 'wait and see' game when you can so readily see how this would pan out.

Will he meet you for a 5th or 6th date on a Friday because it is the only night you are available even though he usually goes out with the boys?  Can he skip rugby training this week because you just managed to get tickets to that gig you told him about last minute?  Test, test, test.

However, remember girls... this one is about give and take.  There will come a time when you might need forgo date night for a sports match or poker night and will need to practice your best smile so by testing the theory... You already owe him one :p

4.  The Big 4

This is a tricky one.  Most people already have an idea if they want to get married, have kids, relocate, Invest/Spend by the time they hit their mid 20s and for the most part, these desires rarely change.  So why wait until you are a year down the line to start having the big conversations?

I'm not saying these subjects are easy to approach at any time, but surely right at the start is better than realising a year or so down the line the guy you wanted to marry, move to the suburbs and have kids with is someone who  wants to relocate, embrace city life and has no desire to 'put a ring on it' or vice versa  I mean where do you go from there?

Over the years I've become a master at gleaning the information required in these categories early on while avoiding the 'deer in the headlights' look.  Embrace the random question game 'would you rather...'  throw in some nonsensical ones and then hit him with it left field.  Trust me, he won't see the agenda and it will give you an opportunity to let him know what you are thinking at the same time.

There are a few more but I think this blog is big enough for one day :p

Incidentally, Cherry was met with a couple of tasters from 1,2 & 4 during his visit this weekend and passed with flying colours.  I had to giggle that the first thing two of my friends (Balloo and Cilla) said when I mentioned that he was coming over was 'Are you going to hide some of your toothbrushes' lmao. I didn't.

MYMP - I Think I'm Falling
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Bridesmaids & Cherrypop

Quite a lot has happened since the last blog as I have been travelling with work, for bridesmaid duties and getting my date on.

I headed to Herb & Barons last weekend for round 1 of bridesmaid duties and finally met bridesmaid number 2 (lets call her Clio - she has a rather curvaceous bum).  Potential crisis averted - we get on like a house on fire which is great.  Baron & Herb were on good form throughout and I was asked almost as soon as arriving if I would give a speech on the day which had me totally touched.  They also told me that my mum is to be invited (my folks loved Herb growing up and there was one point when it looked like she might have moved in with us for a couple of years), and that they wanted to sit me as one of the 8 on the top table for the reception.  Don't get me wrong, I have been best friends with Herb since I was 11 and have known Baron since I was 17 so over the years have partied and lived with both of them independantly so I know we are and will always be a part of each others lives, but the fact it was Baron that had suggested to Herb that they ask me to give a speech was really touching.

Clio and I took Herb wedding dress shopping and much to Herb's amusement and my shock, I actually found myself shedding a tear as she tried on a veil.  I now know I need to pack Kleenex into whatever dress I am set to wear on the day as it is sure to be an emotional roller-coaster. I honestly can't wait to see her get married and be a part of the day.  Take away bridesmaid duties have seen a list as long as my arm produced and among other things I am now set to:  Make the button holes and the 3 bouquets for the day (YouTube better not let me down), locate and hire a Celtic broad sword for Baron as he has seen something similar in wedding photos their venue has on display, organise rickshaw carriages for the big day to take both Herb and her dad and Clio and I from the rented apartment to the venue, and I also get to grips with writing the speech.  Eek.

I tried to catch up with OOJ while I was in the area,  but things didn't work out.  A few text messages later and it seems we both still have some unresolved feelings.  Not really sure where that one will go, but I will keep you in the loop.

On the boy front I had quite a few things organised this weekend, but due to my car breaking down I had to put things on hold.  The plan was to hop over to Balloo's city and catch him to hit the town Friday night, crash over and then go and watch the rugby with Clerk before and then squeezing in a cheeky first date with Accountant before the train home.  Sunday was also set aside for a date with someone 7yrs older than me (yes that's right... older!!), a 3rd date with Cherry and the potential organisation of a date with a solicitor (who we shall call Desperate Dan on account of his jaw line) next weekend.  However, a  last minute re-jig of my weekend plans has just seen me bail on one of my Sunday night dates.  That's right... Bail and questioning if I should meet Desperate Dan at all.

I text Cherry when I knew my plans for the weekend had changed to see if he wanted to meet last night rather than Sunday.  He agreed and so we met and decided to go with the flow and meander to a few new bars.  After a couple of stops however we settled into a funky place with some window high seats and seemed to lose the night.  We talked, flirted, giggled and he finally seemed to be making a move - lots of little touches, brushes and eye contact.  When the bar closed, he walked me home and when there was no one around he pulled me in for our first kiss.  Yowzer was it worth waiting for!  I think we stood there 15mins completely caught in the moment, occasionally stopping for someone to walk by.  It was -2 outside, slightly raining and I couldn't have cared less.  A bathroom request however (genuine I hasten to add), saw Cherry come inside and so we talked a little before things heated up all over again.  

For those of you who have been reading my blog a long time you will know how much importance I place on a first kiss so it was always going to be a make or break thing.  I can confirm, hand on heart that my first kiss with Cherry wasn't only a great first kiss, but that it was one of the best kisses I've ever had.  He is definitely the best kisser I've ever met.  Lush!  The whole thing was exceptionally heated; although it was really nice to see that we both similarly kept trying to cool the situation down.  It took every once of willpower I had to let him call a taxi.  Thank goodness for speedy taxi's!

We are meeting again on Sunday and I absolutely have butterflies in my tummy.  I didn't expect that Cherry and I would make it this far, or that we would have so much chemistry when we couldn't seem to even make it as far as the first kiss but wow was I wrong!  I'm definitely going to say 'watch this space'.

3OH!3 Ft Kei$ha - My First Kiss

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Cherry Twist

Well this last few days have seen me rejected from six jobs before the interview stage, reach rock bottom in terms of my bank account, lose 4kg in weight in a bitter sweet victory that sees all my clothes fit a little different and has seen me receive at least 60+ texts and emails from Balloo with jokes about dating ginger men and having ginger babies that seems somewhat spattered with jealousy despite his protests.

There's nothing I can do about the job front, I just need to keep on it and at some point soon someone will see my potential and I will be laughing.  Clothing wise I think it might be time to dig out the sewing machine and go all old-school Ser3ndipity when I used to rebrand and reinvent the items in my wardrobe and as for Balloo... If/when he decides to stop living in denial, we can maybe have an adult conversation about his feelings, in the mean time he has been told to climb back into his box.

On another note, things with Cherry have taken an interesting twist.  He got a new phone and so having downloaded Whattsapp we ended up having a chat that took an unexpected turn and got a little (ok, a lot!) heated.  For a guy who my his own admission talks himself out of 'making a move', if his words are anything to go by, he is someone with hidden talents.  I'm not a huge fan of sexting if the truth be told, don't get me wrong I have been known to enjoy cliterature, but texting back and forth about what you want to do to someone with the aim of 'getting off' isn't really something that has ever really taken on great appeal; I mean, its typing and how turned on can you really get? 

If there had been an imaginary line, we had somehow managed to stumble upon it and once there, well, it would have been rude to stop right?  Lets just say the use of audio notes was incorporated while I was away with work this week and I somehow get the feeling he might not be so sure to 'make a move' and grab me for a real kiss the next time we meet.  

As for the line... I'm pretty certain we both enjoyed the potential sneak preview but I shall be on my best behaviour from now on. . . Promise :p

All Saints - Booty Call

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Stand Up's, Valentines & Va Va Voom

Things have been crazy all over again since the last blog but boy has it made for some juicy blogging material - lucky you!

I've been completely embracing the world of Internet dating, messaging, occasionally exchanging a number for a phone call and most definitely... dating.  And let me tell you bloggers, shark infested custard is not a harsh enough term - It is chaos out here!  Let me give you a few highlights...

Perfect on paper

This guy couldn't have lived up to his name any more if he tried.  The night we were set to meet had him working late and me fending off a disaster of my own in the form of a man on the bus throwing an entire cup of soup over me by accident on my way to the date.  I hot footed it home and headed back in only to be met with another 'I'm running late text'.  As someone who completely understands how this can happen when you are juggling 101 things at any given time, I told him not to worry and that I would grab a drink and he could meet me inside the bar.  

Twenty minutes later Saturday night was in full swing and I couldn't have felt any more awkward if I tried.  The lights went down, the DJ tunes went up, groups of people were all around, and it was becoming increasingly obvious that I might have been stood up.  I waited another five, finished my wine and sent a text saying something along the lines of 'not sure what happened to you but I am leaving now.  Good luck with the Internet dating thing'.  Just as I was stepping onto the night bus home I received a response saying he had walked in, had spotted someone he thought was me (it was), but that she had been on her phone so as it was crowded he didn't want to tap her (me) on the shoulder, so had headed to a quieter bar next door and was sat in the corner if I wanted to go and meet him.  Needless to say I called him on not being a gentleman and despite his later texts didn't reply.  His digits were deleted - nothing should be that much like hard work. Dating 1 - 0 Ser3ndipity.   On the plus side, I think I handled the entire situation eloquently and in doing so have managed to tick an item off my bucket list - 'Head to a bar solo for a drink',  Life 0 - 1 Ser3ndipity.

Tall Social worker, American football boy, Rugby coach, Professional musician, Chemistry teacher and mature student have been among the others that have hit the radar although none of which were able to keep me interested enough for OR past a first date.  Events co-ordinator, Accountant and Navy guy were among those that felt the same about me.  

Then there is Beanie, a working musician with the confidence of a lion, and the ability to make even the most polite phrase sound like something you wouldn't tell your mum about.  The same age as me, definitely only on the site for fun and the rugged looks of the Barry McKenna of Twin Atlantic thrown in for good measure.  We are meeting in a week or so.  I'm not sure where it will go or what I want as I thought the days of the FB were behind me, but a 21st Century single girl shouldn't rule anything out... Right?

And that bloggers brings us around to Cherry...

Cherry is 28, trained as a forensic scientist and due to redundancy and bad timing is currently working in the lab of a distillery.  Looks wise, while he is tall, he is miles away from the type of person I usually date; he is towards the lean side of average despite being rather athletic (he plays football 3 times a week - again, not my idea of a decent sport), he has goofy looking ears that stick out a little at the side, there's something unusual about his eyes although I can't quite put my finger on it, and to top it off, he is ginger and we aren't talking auburn or strawberry blonde, I mean fully blown ginger.  Personality wise he seems a little shy and seems to have the same group of friends he had in high school with a few additions, however in the same respect he is a total oxymoron and travelled around America a couple of years ago on a whim staying with people he met along the way.  He also seemed completely at ease in meeting me (apparently the first person he has asked on a date from the Internet) and from a few of his stories, despite telling me he can be quite a quiet guy, appears to be someone naturally sociable. There is definitely something about him.

The first time we were supposed to meet I dislocated my shoulder (yes again!) and so had to rain check, we met the following week a couple of days after my stand up by Perfect on paper.  It was really easy first date, there were no awkward silences, we seemed to find a lot of common ground, and a similar sense of humour.  He was a total gentlemen, opening doors, pulling out chairs and manoeuvring me to the inside of the pavement so he could "make sure I was safe if a car swerved".  We met relatively close to my apartment so after the date he walked me home and called for a taxi as we got to my street.  Everything was perfect for a goodnight kiss - the sky was clear and dark, the street was quiet, the lights from the houses made our eyes sparkle and just as I was sure he was going to make his move... A car pulled up with around 12 people inside.  It wasn't meant to be.  As his taxi arrived he asked if he could give me a kiss 'Just a little one' to which I obliged.  I later found out he was just about to pull me into him by my scarf as the car had pulled up.

We met again a couple of days ago, this time for a trip to the museum.  Again we had a really nice time although for some reason rather than the excited butterflies feeling I had been hoping for, I was starting to feel Cherry maybe wasn't the guy for me and so when we took a wrong turn and ended up in an exhibit area with no lights on and he still didn't make a move to grab my hand or go in for a kiss, I was pretty sure he was thinking the same.  A couple of drinks at a bar afterwards saw us play a game of pool and just as I was starting to think it had been nice but not worth repeating, his hands on my waist as he stood behind me to 'help' seemed to tell me there might be more to him than meets the eye.  We seemed to go into 'flirt mode' from there and so when the walk to the road where he would go left and I would go right saw a bus pull up and about 20 people standing around staring, we were left to end the date with yet again another mini kiss.  Needless to say I was left feeling somewhat deflated and a little confused about where I wanted to go from here.

Do I like hanging out with this guy and flirting a little, or do I LIKE this guy?  Talk about the importance of a kiss... x

Parachute - Kiss Me Slowly

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Perfect On Paper

So next week I will be meeting Mr 'Perfect on Paper' from the online dating site.  If I had to list all the things that I am attracted to both physically and personality wise this guy would come pretty close to perfection and to top it off he found my profile and emailed me - there must be a catch?

So here's what you need to know:

Looks...

• Over 6ft (which is right at the top of my list as you know)
• Dark features
• Broad shoulders
• Athletic (this is one of those 'in an ideal world' things for me, but he ticks the box), he competes in Iron Man competitions for fun... For fun!!?
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The Rest...

• Motivated - He is career driven and wall on his way to being a complete success at the age of 32.  
• West Coast USA - So we all know this destination is the ultimate goal for me and where do you think Mr Perfect on paper is from?  That's right.
• Direct - There is no messing with him, he has been polite but straight forward from the word go.  He put himself online to meet people, not to dance the dance or the bare his soul without actually meeting.  Within a couple of emails he hinted that we should meet and we have since swapped numbers to get something in place this coming week.
• No games - After swapping said numbers I refused to text him firs.  I still live in the world where it is nice to let the guy do the chasing.  Anyway he text last night and then again today.  I get the feeling if we hit it off he will be pretty up front about it and if we aren't a match there will be no wondering either.
• Witty - I know, I know all girls do that 'gosh' thing and in general I think it is a pile of nonsense.  I don't consider myself to be an overly witty person but in the right company I can be a hoot and that is all you need. Someone who can make you laugh, not someone who could hold the audience at the Apollo.
• He overuses elipsis in his texts and emails... Something I can't help but chuckle at as it is by far my worst faux pas when it comes to writing.

So there you have it... A guy of seriously huge potential on the Ser3ndipity-ometer.  I don't think I have met anyone in any setting that seems to be everything I am looking for before... I seriously hope I tick a few of his boxes too.

Rogue Traders - Voodoo Child

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30 Day Song Challenge in 30mins.

So I've decided that breaking this down into several days would be mind numbingly boring for you guys so here goes my 30 days as quick as a flash :)


Day 01 – Your favorite song
I so can't do this one as it changes from day to day so VETO

Day 02 – Your least favorite song
I will survive - Gloria Gaynor
Why on earth people opt to A) listen to this song or B) sing this song at karaoke is mind boggling to me

Day 03 – A song that makes you happy
I want you back - Jackson 5
You can't help but love this one for bopping around your living room or tearing up the dance floor.  If you can... You're a robot.

Day 04 – A song that makes you sad
Love can build a bridge - Cher
As if this song wasn't sad enough to begin with, Red Nose Day adopted it shortly after release and I've not been able to listen to it without shedding a tear since.  On a side note I shall be helping to answer calls and take donations on Red Nose Day so should you decide to grab your credit card and make a donation just remember... It might be me on the other end of the line.

Day 05 – A song that reminds you of someone
Iris - The Goo Goo Dolls 
First year University, 1999, the autumn of love and 101 weekends in bed playing at love.

Day 06 – A song that reminds of you of somewhere
Cha Cha Slide - Mr C
Helloooo to my holiday rep days.  I absolutely hate this song and always have, however shakin my ass to it on a bar resulting in free drinks when shooing my pub crawl gang round the bars was a silver lining.

Day 07 – A song that reminds you of a certain event
Everything - Lifehouse
This has Mr X written all over it.  No details needed ;P

Day 08 – A song that you know all the words to
Deadwood Stage - Calamity Jane
I have always loved will always love this movie.  There isn't a single song or line I don't know and while many would be embarrassed, I stand with my head held high.

Day 09 – A song that you can dance to
Moves Like Jagger - Maroon 5
This choice was very nearly Superstition by Barry White but despite criticism I absolutely loved this song.  As soon as soon as the whistle starts I know I am going to crank up the stereo and bust some shapes.

Day 10 – A song that makes you fall asleep
Never Think - Robert Pattinson
I absolutely love, love, LOVE this song so if you are reading this blog and have yet to give it a listen, don't judge until you have found YouTube.  Perfection on an acoustic guitar.

Day 11 – A song from your favorite band
Crash Land - Twin Atlantic
I love them, you know I love them and this song... Awe-Some!

Day 12 – A song from a band you hate
Love you till the end - The Pogues
Despite this song and of course Fairytale of New York, this band seriously annoy me.  The lead singer sounds permanently drunk (because he is permanently drunk I think) and everything is a mumble.  Yet despite this, I can't help but love this track.

Day 13 – A song that is a guilty pleasure
I wanna dance with somebody - Whitney Houston
Yes it is true, I am a closet Whitney fan.  I used to live beside a girl who came home every Friday and threw on a Whitney album at full blast.  Herb and I used to be in stitches but before we knew it... we were sold.  Friday nights have never been the same since.

Day 14 – A song that no one would expect you to love
Erasure - Sometimes
I grew up with this as one of my older brothers was really into them.  One birthday or Christmas, I can't remember which, I was given their album with the bird on the cover.  I think I have played that CD 1000 times.  80s electronica at its best.

Day 15 – A song that describes you
Anything but Ordinary - Avril Lavigne
Don't get me wrong, I know that Avril is teeny bopper but I can't help but like the lyrics in most of her songs so here you have it.  The perfect Ser3ndipity song.

Day 16 – A song that you used to love but now hate
I want you to want me - Cheap Trick
10 things I hate about you took this song, powered it into fame and things have never been the same since.  Damn you and your impact on the karaoke scene.

Day 17 – A song that you hear often on the radio
Beneath You're beautiful - Labrith Ft. Emeli Sandé
I have a feeling I am going to get sick of this song soon as it seems to be on every single time I get into the car.  I really like it but it may quickly be finding itself re-filed into day 16.

Day 18 – A song that you wish you heard on the radio
Fall at your feet - Busted
I absolutely loved this band.  Cheesy pop-punk-tastic.  Gutted when they split up.  Bring them back! 

Day 19 – A song from your favorite album
Basket Case - Greenday
Greenday got me through my teen years with their mix of bouncy pop-punk.  Nothing has been as epic as Dookie and things will never be the same since their awful move into the charts with 'Wake me when September ends'... What were they thinking!

Day 20 – A song that you listen to when you’re angry
This is war - 30 Seconds to Mars
I don't know why... 

Day 21 – A song that you listen to when you’re happy
Superstition - Barry White
I had to get it in somewhere :p

Day 22 – A song that you listen to when you’re sad
Wish you were here - Avril Lavigne

Day 23 – A song that you want to play at your wedding
You Are The Best Thing - Ray Lamontagne
This guy reaches into his soul and pulls out some of the most incredible music.  Simple. Soulful. Beautiful.

Day 24 – A song that you want to play at your funeral
When I look to the sky - Train
Herb introduced me to this band way back when and I have never looked back.  Having seen them in concert live twice I can safely say that they absolutely deserve a shout out on the last day of my days.

Day 25 – A song that makes you laugh
I'm Sexy and I Know it - LMFAO
As if this song and music video wasn't epic enough, I have three words for you:  Olympic diving team... Enough said.

Day 26 – A song that you can play on an instrument
Howie Day - Collide
I'm not sure how I stumbled upon this song or this artist but I sure can play this tune.

Day 27 – A song that you wish you could play
Moonlight Sonata - Beethoven
I had a friend through high school who had the perfect pianists fingers, she could play this song, not to perfection but well enough to make me appreciate its beauty.  Unfortunately despite my aptitude for music my short and stubby fingers make anything other than a clunky rendition of this manuscript.

Day 28 – A song that makes you feel guilty
Man in the Mirror - Michael Jackson
I think this song makes everyone feel guilty.

Day 29 – A song from your childhood
Buck Rogers - Feeder

Day 30 – Your favorite song at this time last year
Airplanes - BoB Ft Hayley Williams

Invisible Bond

I was speaking to Baron yesterday as during the 6 Nations, texting and bantering back and forth on Facebook and out of nowhere I had this overwhelming feeling that once he and Herb are married, somehow a little piece  of our relationship is going to be lost forever.  I know it is silly, Herb and I have been friends since we were 10.  Our friendship has survived, boyfriends, different Universities, different cities, different countries hell, even different continents and yet somehow... I can't seem to shake the feeling.

We were catching up last week talking weddings, work, life and I asked her if she had managed to organise a band yet.  Balloo and I were going to take this on and pick up the price tag if she hadn't although she is way ahead of the curve and already has a Ceilidh and covers band for the first half of the evening with a plan to fire on a pre made dance list during the evening to keep the party going.  We joked that she would need to intercept the list and make a few modifications as Baron isn't exactly known for his ability to rock a party and agreed that when I visit for the first wedding dress shopping day we will sit down and make sure there are some decent party pleaser's   Herb told me however that Baron had already considered what Herb and I would usually go crazy for on a night out and had added some Jackson 5 to the list.

When we were in our teens Herb and I would head out with the rest of the people in our year at school to the local bars and nightclub and while we would drink and talk and flirt like the rest of them we seemed to have an invisible bond when it came to the dance floor.  A track would come on and no matter where we were or who we were talking to we would head to the dance floor and sure enough the other was there waiting.  Dancing together was a big part of who we were, and being the life and the soul of the dance floor was without a doubt the reason we were invited out and asked to party with any and every group of people each weekend despite of age range or 'clique'.  Yep, without a doubt, those were our glory days - we were invited to any and every party going, and so long as the drinks were flowing and the tunes were decent, we would have the dance floor jumping.  People were drawn in by our energy and all the way through to our mid twenties, it didn't matter where we were or who we know, we would dance around and between the groups of people somehow silently bind everyone together.  The only time we stopped would be to grab a drink or hit the bathroom to check our makeup.

I miss those days - When you lived for the weekend and all the troubles of being a fully fledged adult had yet to settle in a take a little piece of your soul.

A couple of years ago I was searching the net for something to watch, I had been under the weather and fancied a series that would be able to keep me entertained for a couple of days while I shook it off.  I stumbled upon the L word.  While Herb and I are not lesbians their relationship to each other and energy of their connection struck a cord so when the series was coming to an end and the girls in the show met for one last house party I couldn't help but put a massive smile on my face when I realised the track show chose to highlight the bonds they had forged was the same track Herb and I request on every single night out.

Song Challenge Day 3:  A song that makes you happy!

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The Jackson 5 - I Want You Back

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Audience & Audio

Hi Bloggers!

So I have fallen off the planet since starting this blog (sorry!) So I figured I would give you a tasty treat as a word of thanks for those of you who keep following me and those of you who have been with me since the first blog that started in December 2009 - aaaages ago!

I haven't over thought it so there may be quite a bit of mumbling etc.  Hope you enjoy!

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Song Challenge Day 1:  Your Favourite Song

(Ok so this one is practically impossible... It changes for me on a daily basis so today you get the 'my favourite today' cop out :p

Jimmy Eat World - In The Middle

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