Some might argue that having a set of 'rules' for dating would constitute as 'playing games' but as every savvy 21st century girl knows... A girl has to be in control at all times. So for your blog reading pleasure, let me break mine down for you.
The Ser3ndipity guide to Online Dating
DON'T
Share too much information before you actually meet (you might not be talking to who you think you are and really?!? Keep a little mystery)
DO
Cover the basics and keep your answers a little vague. This means you will have a few decent kick off points for conversation should you meet.
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DON'T
Swap email addresses. Why would you need to swap email addresses when you are already communicating via a site - do you really want to let a guy you aren't serious about gain access to your personal info in the form of 192 people, Facebook, Myspace. Errr no!
DO
Ignore the request and move on. Most guys seem to drop the suggestion at this point and if they don't I would be questioning why it is so important to them
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DON'T
Switch mobile numbers. Ok so there might be a requirement to do this depending on the circumstance but do you really want to hand this over when the first stages of dating can really be a numbers game.
DO
If you really want to swap digits before meeting or early on... get KIK. All you need is a username and it is Eh Voila instant communication.
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DON'T
Tell the person specifics about where you live or work.
DO
Answer the question but keep it vague enough that there is no chance of this guy/girl foursquaring your ass. Opt for: In the city centre, Westend, Eastend, just outside of town.
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DON'T
Date in your local bar or favorite haunts. I know this feels 'safer' but say it doesn't go well or you have a few dates and decide to pull the plug. Do you really want this guy to know where you will/won't be hanging out most weekends? Also... Do you want the staff thinking you are a 'Playa'.
DO
Pick somewhere in an area you are comfortable with that has good transport links and is somewhat well populated. And I can't run this one home enough... Tell someone where you are, who you are meeting and be sure to check in.
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DON'T
Put 5year old or heavily photoshopped pics up. If you air brush yourself too much are you ever going to feel comfortable meeting? Nobody wants to the girl who 'looks hotter in a photo'
DO
Pick a happy smiley and recent photo of you doing something you love. Embrace the flattering angle but remember to smile (trout pout might seem good at the time but in reality you just look like a duck).
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DON'T
Post topless, sexy photos of yourself and then explain in your blurb that you aren't looking for one night stands and hook ups.
DO
Let the photos do the talking and keep your clothes on!
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DON'T
Plan something crazy and wild for a first date. Within the first few minutes of meeting each other you might both realise he/she isn't for you and I can't think of anything worse than having to endure that for a whole meal/paintball game.
DO
Go simple. Pick somewhere quiet enough to talk but with enough visual distractions to keep the conversation flowing should you both have an attack of nerves.
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DON'T
Play the waiting game OR Text reply like you superglued your mobile to your face.
DO
If you had a nice time let him/her know AND take a few minutes to think about what you want to say before replying. I
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DON'T
Be overly available. Eager beaver can seem like a good idea at the time but remember you are a girl/guy with a life and you aren't at his/her beckon call.
DO
Tell him/her if you already have plans (start as you mean to go on, friends first... if he/she has asked you out again you can be pretty certain they will be happy to wait till your calendars are both free).
Sash - Mysterious Times
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